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Partly cloudy skies during the evening giving way to a few showers after midnight. Low 69F. Winds E at 5 to 10 mph. Chance of rain 30%.
Updated: September 17, 2019 @ 5:07 pm
Need some advice for that first date? Here’s what not to do, according to Tribune News Service advice columnist Erika Ettin.
It's rude — plain and simple. When you have your phone out, the other person assumes that you're looking for better plans or would jump to leave at the first ding of a text. Try, for the duration of the date, to put your phone away. (And "away" does not mean screen-side down. It means out of view.) An exception, of course, is if you're expecting a call or text. Then, simply tell your date up front.
If you're talking about your ex in a positive light, it looks like you're not over that person. And if you're talking about your ex in a negative light, it looks like you're not over that person, and likely somewhat bitter about it. Some people think it's fun to share sob stories. It's not — at least not on a first date, when you should simply be seeing if you have a rapport with someone.
You're running late. Things happen. But be kind enough to notify your date with ample time, if possible. Remember that your time is no more valuable than anyone else's.
Treat people kindly, no matter who they are.
Check your breath, iron your shirt, blow your nose, comb your hair, and otherwise present a clean, put-together appearance.
If you talk about work the whole time, it feels like an interview. If you talk about yourself, you sound self-absorbed. Make sure the conversation is a give-and-take.
Be generous. Tip well.
Sometimes you walk into a date, and you know within the first five minutes that it's not a match. That's OK. It happens! But rather than running through your grocery list in your head during the date, try to stay present and engaged. You both made the time to be there, so it's best to make the most of it, learn something and try to enjoy yourself in some capacity.
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