Dear Annie: I have had this issue with a certain family member, and I am hoping you can advise me on what to do. When the family of one of our sons visits and eats dinner at our house, his wife cleans up afterward, which is appreciated, but the problem is that she takes 90 percent of the food for herself and her grown children without asking. If they were having financial problems, I would gladly give it all to them, but this is definitely not the case. One year, she wrapped up the remains of a 5-pound ham. I am now stopping the meals and offering only dessert, which I feel bad about. I feel worse about her taking what isn't hers to take. Help, please. I will be watching for your reply. Thank you so much for listening. -- Longtime Fan
Dear Longtime Fan: You never know what goes on behind closed doors. Maybe they are having financial problems. Regardless, she is feeding your grandchildren. If it really bothers you that she takes all the leftovers, perhaps you could set aside a plate of leftovers and put a cute name tag on it for her. Either way, I would be extremely reluctant to cut her off from taking home some of the food -- and don't settle for serving only dessert when you and your family would prefer a real meal.